When does a daughter become an adult?
I love to delve into the many themes that arise from a complex mother/daughter relationship. In An Amish Family Reunion I deal with the evolving power struggle beteen Julia (the mom) and her adult daughter, Emma. We met Emma in Never Far from Home as a rebellious teenager. Now she’s grown up with a happy marriage and two sons. But both her mother and her mother-in-law insist on making choices for her, much to her dismay. I think back to the relationship I had with my own mom. Here I was…married, teaching school, and handling the resposbilities of my first home, yet my mom would still call to ask: did you lock your doors, remember to take your vitamins, set the alarm clock for work?? Much of that is simple protective love, but she also tried hard to talk us out of vacationing abroad (could catch a dreaded disease) buying a house in the country (too far from the nearest hospital) and adopting a dog from the pound (could have fleas). I never became an adult in my mom’s eyes. Readers–drop me a line! Have any of you reached “adult status” with your mothers?
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Try having 4 moms!!
My “real mom” waited 10 years to have me after she had raised my 4 older siblings (the oldest is 15years older – 3 sisters & 1 brother) It was real hard to grow up in that household with that many “parents” each with their own ways. At times though it was nice to have someone to talk to when you really didnt want to ask your real mom.
By the time I was a teenager, of course they were all married with children and even more critical and opinionated! I was never smart enough or did anything right. When I finally got married and had my own children – I felt that I could never be as good as parent as they were. I was so overwhelmed because in my eyes they were perfect and I couldn’t even come close! I became so obessive – my house, husband and children had to be perfect. One day I finally “woke up” and realized that they weren’t perfect (actually far far from it) and I have been able to relaxe and enjoy my life. I do greatly miss the years that I missed when I was so anxious and worried over everything!
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Are you going to have a 4th book for the Miller Family Series? Your books are realy good and please let me know if you are going to have a 4th book to the miller family series.
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